This may have something to do with society, too: Perhaps anniversaries are given more importance in the South, or with couples who come from a different era. This could be. And maybe Westerners forget anniversaries because they're too busy running around in the ocean and soaking up rays.
Who knows. In any event, here are a few literary, anniversary-worthy quotesin case your anniversary is coming up and you need something to scrawl in a card.
Dalloway 2. Marcel Proust on love: "Once we believe that a fellow-creature has a share in some unknown existence to which that creature's love for ourselves can win us admission, that is, of all the preliminary conditions which Love exacts, the one to which he attaches most importance, the one which makes him generous or indifferent as to the rest. Anton Chekhov on love: "My whole being from head to heels is bursting with a strange, incomprehensible feeling.
I can't analyze it just now — I haven't the time, I'm too lazy, and there — hang analysis! Why, is a man likely to interpret his anniversry when he is flying head foremost from a belfry, or has just learned that he has won two hundred thousand? Is he in a state to do it?
He explains that even if they miss your anniversary by a day, or have to be reminded by you, their response is what counts. If they are apologetic about their mistake and want to make it up to you, that can ify that it was just an accident.
When it comes to discerning if this is a red flag or not, Klapow says that it becomes a red flag when they don't respond apologetically with empathy and care. According to Klapow, it's concerning if your partner is dismissive, defensive, and doesn't apologize sincerely when you explain that their mistake hurt you. If they show no remorse or feelings of guilt surrounding the missed anniversary, it could mean they don't place enough ificance on your relationship.
Another factor to take into is if this is part of a larger patten. Have they forgotten important dates before?
Are they bad with remembering dates or are they being neglectful? By answering these questions about your partner, Klapow says that you can come to a better understanding of annniversary going on in your relationship. A missed anniversary could be a al that while they care about you, they may care less about the relationship itself.
Klapow explains that anniversary dates are relationship milestones and how you celebrate them represents your relationship.